tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post8183462251315121147..comments2023-10-03T02:36:37.563-07:00Comments on The SportyMummy: Partners of Adult Undiagnosed AspergersSportyMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-64146583645866509312013-04-27T12:15:14.886-07:002013-04-27T12:15:14.886-07:00I am a moderator on the above group in Janes comm...I am a moderator on the above group in Janes comment. Jane is no longer a part of the group but we are still there. The Aspergatedwives Yahoo group is a wonderful crazy down to earth group of wives who commiserate...build up and support each other through the confusing frustrating and yes...sometimes sweet times being married to a man with AS. We are not associated with the Facebook group at this time.<br />Tony Attwood...THE doctor of AS has said hes never knw a wife to be wrong in her "diagnoses" of her husband. It is all too common and the men who are older...30s and up were mostly never diagnosed and supported in social etiquette so we as wives take the brunt of that. Its also very well known that they are wonderful fabulous boyfriends who can change overnight after the wedding leaving the wives with a "What the hell just happened? Wheres my boyfriend??" feeling. There is a diagnosable mental condition the wives get many times called Cassandra Syndrome. <br />We are not "anti" AS or autism. We know there are many layers to it and that most AS men have areas where they are genius level and contribute greatly to society...but in our group no one is turned away for being angry upset frustrated outraged and lost...because we all are at times. Encourage your friend to join...and anyone else who knows a woman in this situation. It really save my sanity and I was able to move through a much needed divorce with grace and am now becoming friends with my ex. Thanks so much for posting this!Mermaidlaughinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05676304851060391645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-17599803511388283462013-02-18T03:41:16.935-08:002013-02-18T03:41:16.935-08:00this is created by women for any women living with...this is created by women for any women living with any partner is affected .<br /><a href="http://callgirlparis.info/" rel="nofollow"> Call Girl Paris</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09216742610163172124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-2729707052745455692013-02-15T07:33:25.845-08:002013-02-15T07:33:25.845-08:00There is hope there is help, but more importantly ...There is hope there is help, but more importantly there is someone to talk to, lots of us actually. :-) <br /><br />http://www.facebook.com/groups/AspergatedWives/<br />This is a group Aspergated Wives was created by women for women, any woman living with any partner that is affected by Asperger's, formally diagnosed or not. Our sister group on Yahoo http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AspergatedWives/ is a friendly group forum for members to chat safely and in private, if you need somewhere to share your story and connect with others going through the same experience, just drop in and say hi after joining we would love to see you there.<br /><br />This Aspergated Wives Facebook group is where you can come for information, links, connections to groups and support. Somewhere to help you make sense of and map out, your journey living alongside Asperger's. So whether you be an Aspergated Wife, partner, separated partner, ex-partner boyfriend girlfriend or what ever, if you are a female in a relationship with a person with Asperger's - this is your first stop. Please feel free to comment on the information offered here or to offer information that you have found helpful or useful. The members here are a wonderful resource of information help and support, so feel free to ask.<br /><br />AspergatedWives : Asperger Spouses<br />health.groups.yahoo.com<br />AspergatedWives: Asperger SpousesJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17100960413280020990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-56607903674616131992013-01-10T08:32:57.595-08:002013-01-10T08:32:57.595-08:00I landed on your page today after my spouse overhe...I landed on your page today after my spouse overheard me talking on the phone about my concerns and the fact I have felt for years that he has Aspergers, but I couldn't ever find a way to tell him. <br /><br />Hours later he confronted me, angered that I even thought that, he spent all night awake..thinking, angered at me. By mid morning today, he thanked me. In a quest to prove me wrong, he did a bit of searching and was shocked reading page after page of exactly what he's living with, what his childhood was like. His thank you came with a flow of tears, and what seemed to come across as relief. As I type this, he is at his therapist office.<br /><br />As a wife, I wish I would have said something sooner or pushed harder.Mrs Fab-ulous!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11390337713617263589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-55898208435593918092012-04-09T04:12:04.517-07:002012-04-09T04:12:04.517-07:00Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to your friend a...Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to your friend and her husband. I am sure there are many out there that are able to relate to such circumstancesRhianna https://www.blogger.com/profile/08015224038142499324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-50028130054399658372012-04-06T05:08:57.040-07:002012-04-06T05:08:57.040-07:00My heart goes out to your friend as that must be s...My heart goes out to your friend as that must be so tough to know in your heart but her husband can't see it. I hope the situation improves and she and her hubby get the support they need. XxLife Love and Hiccupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03283618400442819761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-22329359157429284912012-04-06T05:08:53.822-07:002012-04-06T05:08:53.822-07:00My heart goes out to your friend as that must be s...My heart goes out to your friend as that must be so tough to know in your heart but her husband can't see it. I hope the situation improves and she and her hubby get the support they need. XxLife Love and Hiccupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03283618400442819761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-27040780889377859672012-04-03T05:26:43.796-07:002012-04-03T05:26:43.796-07:00Thank you so much for leaving this comment :) It s...Thank you so much for leaving this comment :) It sounds like you really understand the situation my friend is in. I know it is hard for the person who is undiagnosed. It is hard for their partner and families as well! <br /><br />Tell your friend we are thinking of her and she is not alone!SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-59467286248591818492012-04-03T05:13:52.081-07:002012-04-03T05:13:52.081-07:00My best friend and I are certain her husband is un...My best friend and I are certain her husband is undiagnosed. We realized it after my son got his diagnosis and she was supporting me by helping do a lot of reading on the subject. It was a relief for her to be able to put things in context and potentially kept her from leaving. Unfortunately he refuses to acknowledge there are any issues and she continues to struggle with his behaviors and the additional burden of how those behaviors impact raising their very young daughter.ShesAlwaysWritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06120661314940648192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-64334698160376196302012-04-03T04:54:34.080-07:002012-04-03T04:54:34.080-07:00Thanks Rachel!Thanks Rachel!SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-9979328751067975292012-04-03T04:52:57.901-07:002012-04-03T04:52:57.901-07:00Thanks Jess...kids do seem to throw 'order'...Thanks Jess...kids do seem to throw 'order' and 'quiet' out he window!!SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-9487349265660759262012-04-03T04:50:54.235-07:002012-04-03T04:50:54.235-07:00Thanks for your comment! I'm not sure Asperger...Thanks for your comment! I'm not sure Aspergers was widely known about 50 years ago...I guess finding an answer, like aspergers later in life, could help a person understand themselves a little better.SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-8873230942960341332012-04-03T03:49:56.139-07:002012-04-03T03:49:56.139-07:00Thanks for opening my eyes to this. Gosh, it would...Thanks for opening my eyes to this. Gosh, it would be so hard for your friend. I hope it gets better soon. Rachel xRedcliffe Stylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781939430745328713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-69505824297477465492012-04-03T03:20:06.276-07:002012-04-03T03:20:06.276-07:00To be honest I hadnt really thought about it, but ...To be honest I hadnt really thought about it, but you're right, it must be reasonably common.<br />It must be so hard for your friend; the chaos of kids is hard enough when you're completely healthy, let alone with any other complications!EssentiallyJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02372695554793237026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-16926699510048998482012-04-03T02:03:49.549-07:002012-04-03T02:03:49.549-07:00Thanks Tahlia! Perhaps if my friends husband was m...Thanks Tahlia! Perhaps if my friends husband was more aware of adult autism, he may be a little more accepting of some help....SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-89813370398725003962012-04-03T02:01:30.563-07:002012-04-03T02:01:30.563-07:00Thanks Sarah. There seems to be a stigma attached ...Thanks Sarah. There seems to be a stigma attached to adults getting help for things such as mental illness and autism. I so wish it were not the case.SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-53511887054587560782012-04-03T01:59:38.036-07:002012-04-03T01:59:38.036-07:00Thanks Misha, I completely agree. early interventi...Thanks Misha, I completely agree. early intervention can make such a huge to children on the spectrum. It is so much better to have people aware of autism than have it hidden away.SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-10199855809191094582012-04-03T01:55:58.457-07:002012-04-03T01:55:58.457-07:00Thanks Yvette, a good point. I think many from old...Thanks Yvette, a good point. I think many from older generations have grown up without labels, but without help as well.SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-64036166458363967442012-04-03T01:52:24.806-07:002012-04-03T01:52:24.806-07:00Interestingly, a friend of mine who is in her 50&#...Interestingly, a friend of mine who is in her 50's is now wondering if she has Asperger's ... it really does seem to fit. It wasn't something that was diagnosed when she was small.Footprints Australiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17623190578935913157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-83108112627233059062012-04-03T01:05:10.162-07:002012-04-03T01:05:10.162-07:00we don't think about how it can be seen in adu...we don't think about how it can be seen in adults and the adults that may suffer. Hopefully this awareness and knowledge can grow!tahlia @ the parenting fileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09554177115721373612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-88519978876659241342012-04-02T21:20:25.049-07:002012-04-02T21:20:25.049-07:00I know a few adults who are definately on the spec...I know a few adults who are definately on the spectrum but they dont want to get help.. I feel for your friend its hard when people wont admit they need support.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02519482775650749822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-40772192298236902732012-04-02T20:51:15.654-07:002012-04-02T20:51:15.654-07:00You're right... Asperger's is not a new ph...You're right... Asperger's is not a new phenomenon. But the children who have been diagnosed now have such an advantage compared to those adults of today who's "quirkiness" and difference was not recognised when they were children. Early intervention will make the futures of children diagnosed today that much brighter.Misha - TheBlingBuoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07984988520715222166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-6606096527267958462012-04-02T20:47:53.202-07:002012-04-02T20:47:53.202-07:00Autism/Aspergers isn't just 'children'...Autism/Aspergers isn't just 'children'.. these children grow up.. alot of people don't think about it as an adult thing.Yvette Bowyer @DTLilSquirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04786183752685022537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-61238159714531121262012-04-02T18:55:41.005-07:002012-04-02T18:55:41.005-07:00Thank you for your comment :) I think these situat...Thank you for your comment :) I think these situations must be quite common. But I know from my friends experience how frustrating it can be to be married to one!SportyMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00351427912193556216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6780031148561095801.post-43542749519647337202012-04-02T17:05:11.459-07:002012-04-02T17:05:11.459-07:00My family is of the head in the sand variety too. ...My family is of the head in the sand variety too. We're all quite sure at least 2 of my siblings are on the spectrum, but they've never seen anyone. That's the advantage of home schooling I guess! At least when they leave home and enter the big world there will be plenty of support available to them - should they ask for it.Blundermumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16683143497644470655noreply@blogger.com