Thursday, 24 November 2011

When Dean Martin is Preferable to Kyle Sandilands

When I was a child, my mum and dad would play Dean Martin in the car on road trips. That’s right Dean Martin, the man who sings…

”When the moon hits your eye like a biga pizza pie its amore….”

perhaps it was the only cassette tape they owned, as I don’t know what other reason there could be to subject us to this torturous crooning, over and over again.

I remember my friends drawing pictures of the ‘KISS’ logo and talking about the songs they liked and listened to on the radio. There was never much I could contribute to the conversation with my extensive knowledge of Dean Martin lyrics.

Now that my children have outgrown the wiggles Hi-5, The Fairies and Playschool (thank you god!) I now get to introduce them to some real music. I started off by playing compilation CDs I’d made when NAPSTER first emerged, before people realized it was illegal and immoral that is…When the girls got their iPods, I’d pre-loaded them with a selection of my favorite 80’s music. And then I heard them happily singing  ‘Livin on a prayer’  and I thought “…O’no!! Bon Jovi  is the new Dean Martin”. I’m doing to my kids, just what my parents did to me!!!

So, I tried to turn on the TV music channels for them to watch. As a teenager, I vividly remember late nights and early mornings watching rage. No Saturday morning would be complete without watching my fill of  ‘Video Hits’. But OMG! Have you seen what music video’s are like now!! There are gangsters, often topless, adorned with gold, jewels, expensive cars, mansions and pools. To complete their collection of possessions, they are then surrounded by a harem of nearly naked gyrating women! Some of the videos must come close to porn. I could never leave that on the TV and have my 8 and 7 year old girls see images like these. This is not how women should be treated. I don’t ever want them to think this is the correct way to behave!

I have since turned to radio. We spend a lot of time in the car, so that is where we listen to the music. It has taken me some time but I have adapted to some of the songs and the kids each have their favorites. I am sometimes astounded listening to the kids sing because they have absorbed much more of the lyrics than I have.…although I wonder at the political correctness of the kids belting out Katy Perry’s TGIF lyrics abut a menage a trois and I feel the compulsion to turn off the song that goes  “…she sounds like sex on the radio….”

When the DJs or radio show hosts also get into the action, I just have to turn the radio off all together and listen to the CD of Hannah Montana for the 5263574th time. But this is preferable to what is said on the radio. Kyle Sandilands, a high profile radio host, recreantly delivered this outburst about a female journalist who criticised his new TV show. He said on air…

“You’re a piece of shit. This low thing, Alison Stephenson, deputy editor of online. You’re supposed to be impartial, you little troll…. You’re a bullshit artist, girl. You should be fired from your job… Watch your mouth or I’ll hunt you down.”

 He also called The journalist a “fat bitter thing” and attacked her hairstyle and “small titties”

I am very glad we were not listening to the radio at this time, but we easily could have been. I have also heard this man say many, many, mean, derogatory, crass, sexually explicit and misogynistic things. Usually I can get my fingers on the button before my little ‘sponges with ears’ pick the whole thing up.

It seems to me that the  pervasive culture of the music industry is actually very sexual and even misogynistic. If people in the industry believe it is appropriate to say things like this about women, include things like this in their music and their videos, than parents and teachers  face an uphill battle to teach children respect and equality.

I feel very proud that some of the people I follow on Twitter have been instrumental in getting this Kyle Sandilans story into the general media They have even succeeded in the major sponsors of the radio show pulling their adds. Effective immediately. You’ve just got to love twitter for giving people a voice and people power!!

As for my grand plan to make sure the girls are up to date with the current music trends…..Perhaps I should go and borrow my Mum’s Dean Martin Cassette instead!!

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  1. I think Dean Martin is definitely preferable to Kyle's horrible tirades. I just don't get it. We teach our kids to use kind words with one another, that it's not okay to call each other names, but adults are allowed to rant and rave and get glorified for it? But for the record, I would much rather listen to Dean Martin than the ABC radio that I was subjected to as a child in the car. Hours and hours of cricket commentary... (shudders)

  2. Oh dear, not the ABC least you got to listen to the *cool* news bulletin theme music!! ...and thank you so much for your comment Robyn, It's very much appreciated!!

  3. Excellent post. My daughter is 18 months so I'm not at this stage yet, but already dreading it. At least Gordon Ramsay's fall from grace means I don't have to worry about him anymore!

  4. Thanks Emily. With all the sponsors pulling their ads, it seems that the message that this is unacceptable is getting across!

  5. Nice to see another sporty/fitness mum blogging - came over from FlogYoBlog - I think Kyle S is a complete tool - go Deano!
    Cheers, Liz @LastChanceTraining (

  6. Thanks Liz, I just had a squizz at your blog...great stuff!!

  7. I think the industry was just as sexual and misogynistic in the 80's, but not as overtly so. And we didn't always pick up on it as kids. Listen now to songs like "Centerfold" or "Brown Sugar" (okay, that's 70's, but still). Ugh.

    Kyle S. and his ilk are taking up precious oxygen. Can we vote them off the planet?

  8. That's a great point, the whole 'sex, drugs and rock and roll' thing has never really included respect and equality for women has it!